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I realize that this isn’t an exhaustive scientific study, nor was it meant to be. I received 46 total responses from the two questions I asked in the “Weddings” section and the “Etiquette” section.
20 indicated that they would rather attend a wedding with meat and no alcohol than with alcohol and no meat (if they had to choose just one), 15 indicated that they would rather attend a wedding with alcohol and no meat than with meat and no alcohol (if they had to choose just one), and the rest were either ambiguous or inconclusive.
Any comments or thoughts on this?
Brigadier BuzzKill
June 8, 2010 at 9:05 pm
That’s unusual as to me it’s not a wedding without either. I’m sitting here trying to think of which one I’d choose but can’t decide.
Deer Hunter
June 8, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Actually I would rather attend a meat free wedding. There are many days I go without eating meat anyway. I would love to have a few drinks at the reception while hanging out with friends and family. If I really want meat I can eat it before or after the wedding.
spacejohn77
June 8, 2010 at 9:43 pm
As long as the food is good, I’d prefer to go meat-free.
But I’ve had some food at weddings that’s been fairly blah. And while I’ve had, at worst, mediocre meat dishes at weddings, I’ve had mashed potatoes and beans and such at weddings that seem almost unfit for consumption.
Mary
June 8, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Yes, that seems ridiculous to me personally! Just because there isn’t meat doesn’t mean the food won’t be good. I mean, if you go to a birthdy party and they serve cheese pizze or pasta in marinara sauce do you even notice that it’s meat free? I would think if you served a yummy meal no one would even really notice that there wasn’t meat there. And seriously, people can’t go just one meal wihtout meat? I would prefer a veg. meal (which would probably be fancy and nice) than go to an event with dancing etc. and not drink!
But I could not live either way without dessert!
Lacey
June 8, 2010 at 10:40 pm
I can’t drink yet and don’t plan to anytime soon so you pretty much know my opinion.
Hey in an alcohol- free wedding you don’t have to worry on anybody getting totally and embaressingly rip-roaring drunk. I understand how some people could want a meat free wedding, but some guests could potentially (like me) see it as somewhat rude and un-accomadating.
Draya
June 8, 2010 at 11:09 pm
Im not sure why it would matter!? I thought you go to weddings for the people that are getting married, and not for what they serve.
Big Mouth Strikes Again
June 8, 2010 at 11:36 pm
I would be fine with alcohol-free or meat-free, since I am vegetarian and not a big drinker. Out of the two, I will definitely prefer meat free but alcohol free is good too because you don’t have to worry about people drinking and driving.
However, it is the bride and grooms special day, and what they do should be up to them. If they do not want meat for religious or ethical reasons, they should not be forced to buy it with their own money to feed it to others. People should respect that, especially since it’s their special day. I think it is self-centered and rude. Even though I’m a veg. even if there weren’t really any options for me I would try not to complain because it isn’t about me. People seriously can go one meal without meat.
La Vie Boheme
June 9, 2010 at 12:13 am
No..I have no thoughts. 46 people doesn’t make it a reputable study. Maybe many of those 20 people don’t even drink.
Lyla
June 9, 2010 at 12:46 am
No, I’m actually not surprised at all. In my opinion, if people invited to a wedding won’t go because of what kind of food and beverage are being served, they didn’t deserve an invitation in the first place.
wyllow
June 9, 2010 at 1:08 am
It’s one day and one meal out of their lives. I’d tell them to grab a burger on the way if they were that unhappy about it, but really… wedding receptions are about dancing and having fun all of which alcohol in moderation adds to the fun. Never heard anyone say… I’ll dance but I gotta get a couple more chicken wings in me first…. no it’s always… sure I’ll dance, just let me have another drink to loosen up first.
Salade Girl
June 9, 2010 at 2:04 am
If someone refused to come to my wedding because I wasn’t serving meat or alcohol, I’m not sure I would want them there anyway. It’s not a month long retreat in rural India, it’s one meal, served in someone else’s honor! People like that really bother me. People don’t need meat at every meal, that’s not healthy, nor do they need alcohol at every meal, that’s not healthy either. If you absolutely can’t live without meat or alcohol, have some before or after!
Kat
June 9, 2010 at 2:34 am
It makes me sad. I read about vegan weddings a lot and they say that there families were actually unsupportive of it, which sounds so bizarre to me. To fixate on something so insignificant.
If I were to marry my current boyfriend, I know I would not have a vegan wedding. Not only is he a meat eater but he has a family of butchers and they are very traditional from Mexico. I’m sure they just wouldn’t come lol Even if I had an open bar!
But really, it’s sad and bizarre to me. And I would be really offended if people brought outside food into the reception or refused to eat. I’ve heard of that as well.
Jennycakes
June 9, 2010 at 3:12 am
My thoughts are that people are ridiculous. As others have said, the day is really for those who are getting married. Personally, I’d much rather go to a meat-free wedding than an alcohol-free wedding. You can create a delicious meal without meat, and I don’t know if people really go to weddings for the food(?). Alcohol is social lube, and having a glass of wine to celebrate isn’t crazy behavior.
It’s not like you’re trying to have a wedding without a CAKE.